Can't get AI wingmen to attack

[SlipBall]

It sounds like to me that your group are just too far away from the AI's orders given in the waypoint...try this, in the realism page over on the right side, un-check the visual aids. Now you can pull up the map to see if you are on course for the mission. When you can, read up on fmb guide and how to set waypoints. You can re-check visual aids when you are more knowledge in how it all works in game