If you get on ATAG's teamspeak3 server, there are lots of people who're only too happy to help advise on all of the issues you've been posting about.
The essences of the game on the ATAG server are teamwork and experience, and without either or both, unless you're a very experienced player/flyer, you're going to 'come a cropper' as the saying goes. That means you're not going to have a very enjoyable experience.
Any of the ATAG group and many others will be more than happy to help you have a good time on the server. You just have to get on teamspeak and fly.
So please come and join in, get involved, you'll find that we're quite a pleasant bunch of chaps. (Usually!)