Can join just a few Games in MP

[Gorn085]

Hi,
I have Men of War on Steam and the Victory day edition from the world wide web. Why? Because my Steam Version crashes the whole time in MP, so I searched some topics and found the advise to use the victory day edition with my original Steam cd-key. And it works fine! But I have a problem: This Version is in 1.17.5 an in MP there are a lot of Games in the list but i can just join 6 or 7, the rest is not joinable. I thought that this games have another game version, but when I look at the information windows of one of those games I see that they use the same game version. Are they using this hotfix pach (1.17.5.1)? because I don't know whether the victory day edition includes this hotfix and i tried to install it manual but the installer can't find a men of war installation. Or are my pings to this games just bad?
P.S. I have the same problem with my steam Version but i also don't know whether Steam ever downloaded the hotfix.
Any ideas?