Noob Multiplayer Issues

[PeterPanPan]

Hi, was quite a dab hand at IL2 1946 online coops but am having real difficulty getting my head around multiplayer in CoD.

All I want to do initially is get online with 1 buddy in 2 x cold, dark Spits parked at any airfield. We will then just fly around a bit, nothing fancy.

Last week we spent 2 hours trying to make this work. Both of us tried hosting/creating a server in both the Lobby and also the other area - forget what it's called. Sometimes one of us could see the other, sometimes not, but what we could never achieve is both of us appearing in game together. Really frustrating.

Any help much appreciated - thanks.

PPP