hi, i'm ps3 so cannot offer help for online. the ps3 community is still very active so i am a little surprised that xbox online is dead. best advise is to pop onto the gaigin birds of steel forum and ask the xbox aviators there. not many of them frequent these pages anymore so you'll get a better response there.
here is the link
http://forum.gaijinent.com/index.php...irds-of-steel/