Some time ago decided to go full real on all the settings, except external views as I love to look at the planes to pass the time on long transitions.

Now to make the transition a success I'd need some help from you guys who've successfully walked this path already. So some Q:s below:
1) CEM: I roughly know the theory for engine management and now playing the double nickel pt2 with P51-D 20NA I checked my crates performance recommendations from pilot's notes. So let's say for example that the Climb should be 35 Hg of manifold pressure with 2600 RPM. It's hard to reach such combination while still retaining decent climb rate. I throttle down and change the prop pitch and I almost fall from the sky.
So am I missing a control I should use (I guess the supercharger etc is automatic on mustang)? Or is the the modeling of engine management incorrect and I can't really use the real life performance values etc?
2) Can I get the mission waypoints to the map somehow but no plane icons? Now I have to memorize the points as I don't want to print and draw the route.
3) How the heck do you manage to spot the bogies? Usually the only way I can spot them is from tracers. To identify friend from foe I have to get too close and I'm often chasing the good guys just to realize when getting in range of 3-500m that it's friendly afterall.
Thanks in advance!