I know what you mean. This game is really good. Not perfect, but it still gives huge amounts of challenge and fun. I am a Total War fan, but the new titles like Empire or Napoleon are only for casual gamers: terribly easy and boring. Moreover, I don't like MP in Empire or Napoleon, which is all about exploiting AI: your opponent will flack your unattended unit and shoot at it “for free” and my idle men, who are ordered to fire at, will not turn and fire back.
I myself am a bit disappointed with the quality of the MoW MP. Too many different versions and incompatibility issues. I was getting the out of sync error all the time and if I install the Russian patches and the fix, my firewall warns me about buffer overflow attack, which was completely new to me. But when I downloaded the Men of War v1.17.5 Free Multiplayer Client from:
http://www.gamershell.com/download_58730.shtml
I finally am not out of sync and my firewall is happy. So my problem is gone but I still see that we lose many players due to the out of sync error.
And I still see lots of yellow shields, like 90% of all games. In the manual, it says it is best to avoid them. So I need to avoid 90% of games?
I get the “waiting for server” message sometimes, but it doesn’t take that long but maybe I was lucky.
The MP experience is a bit spoilt by the community too. My first impression is not that good compared to Total War community. But that is another story.
I just hope the DMS will do a good job with Assault Squad MP.