1) Its trial and error, make sure you use your wingmen effectively, issue them commands to attack the primary targets (D-PAD down, then up) it will soon come to you relatively easily
2) Switch to the control pad!! the problem is the joystick. It doesnt have a brake, so you'll take an entire runway to stop. Dont worry though, this issue is being addressed in the patch. If your engine is cutting out though, it prob means you've struck the prop.
3) All i can suggest for this is you look up how people on this forum have done it (as you already have checked
) thats the best advice i can give you, its a tough nut to crack but with patience and luck you will get it done.
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